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Janene's avatar

Also, for intro music -- I'm voting for the Indiana Jones theme song with a slightly folk twist- acoustic style, but still plenty of action :)

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Tara's avatar

mmmmhmmm... I'm feeling it.

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Janene's avatar

I was so happy at the end when you said you would address the plant medicine angle too in a future episode! I was thinking, "ok, benadry, can get. Check. But what do they use plant wise for anti inflammatory stuff? Homeopathics? Which specific ones does Tara like? Would Troy slip in a little something plant wise as a salve instead of neosporin if it was family? All these fun questions! I'm just delighted at the thought of hearing about your plant first aid kit. It's an art and a science and I would love a walkthrough of a whole broad spectrum - thoughts, etc. Also, how to get more advanced training on this kind of thing. Ok, I just deleted a bunch of additional writing. TMI. Let's just say that this is a great topic and I would love to learn more from both of you!

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Tara's avatar

Yes, that's a much bigger conversation for sure. That was just the emergency part, but we never use any of that. When there's something that happens around here and a life isn't in jeopardy, it's my domain. We don't use any western medicine stuff. Maybe I will have to unroll the day to day stuff too. :)

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Biba Tanya's avatar

Oh thank you so much for this!!

Tara i just love that you could feel how difficult it would be for a mother to cause pain and so were asking for ways to numb.

So much love and appreciation for you both ❤️

I have a rule in my home..... No phones at the table.... But i listened to this while eating lamb chops alone .... In a bid to pretend we were all sat round a table eating together, and I was listening to this conversation. I may have taken it a step too far when I called my cat "Fidel" 😬

Thank you so much for answering my question, I'm so grateful... And thank you so much for sharing your marriage advice.

Couple goals is such a cringey term.. But I do see your marriage and relationship as a goal i want to achieve.... One of such deep love and respect..... And your sharing helps me embody that vision.

Thank you so very much ❤️

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Tara's avatar

Thanks so much, Biba :) I will see about opening up the first aid kit that we use for the day to day stuff. We've actually never had to use anything Troy spoke about except for Benadryl in the case of an allergic reaction. I have got stitches from him before. But for the day to day, it's all plant medicines and salves and he gets doctored by me :)

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Guy's avatar

Thank you both, but a special thanks to Troy. This is one I will listen to at least one more time just to make sure I've gathered all the key things you two have learned on loving and respecting each other the way you do, and then I need to work on building my home emergency kit. The TnTs are great! Now for that into and exit theme music . . .

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Tara's avatar

Thank you, Guy.

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Josephk's avatar

Tara, random question. What electrolytes do you prefer?

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Tara's avatar

Hub's likes LMNT. I make my own with salt, potassium and magnesium.

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Josephk's avatar

never felt much of a benefit from LMNT.

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Elisha's avatar

Thank you for this TnT talk. I loved both topics. For the first aid portion after first aid training are their any books recommended for a parent to have on hand?

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Tara's avatar

I think his books are too advanced for the laymen but there are some good books on home doctoring out there.

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Elisha's avatar

Thank you, I'll look up some home doctoring books :)

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Diana's avatar

I love how real your relationship with each other is. With every sentence I was saying to myself yes, we do speak different languages, yes we clash because we are different but ultimately we choose ourselves every day not by default but through a common effort to grow, sorting through years of misunderstandings and not giving up when it gets hard.

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Tara's avatar

Yes, exactly so, Diana. Thank you for your kind words. I suppose it would be so much easier if we were told this, but then how good is anything if it's not earned?

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Diana's avatar

It would have landed on deaf years in my 20s

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Em's avatar

love this one. when I have downtime I go through and listen to posts I missed of yours before I became a subscriber. they always reground me. this one was exactly what I needed today— 26 years old, 1 day post conflict with my other half, no modelling of healthy relationships or conflict resolution in my life. thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Tara's avatar

Hi Steph, thanks so much for your message. It's crazy to me that there are so few supports for young couples to figure out how to have healthy relationships. We're all just left up to our own devices to cobble things together. Maybe check out "Hold Me Tight" by Sue Johnson. So much of what we all want, men included, is to be seen and known and appreciated, but it takes vulnerability and to be vulnerable, there must be trust. I think this might be a good book to start with. Will you let me know? If it's awful, let me know that too. Hugs to you.

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