Isn’t it an indication of how upside down our world is when us caring and thinking women (especially in partnership with a resolute man) are dangerous?! I had a similar realization a few years ago when a homesteading friend commented on how we’re essentially radical terrorists in the eyes of the government as we plan out homeschool goals... quietly dangerous, I like to call us. Not looking to instigate, but ready to defend. Thank you for this piece and recommendations. Given your comments on sea salt, are there any brands of Epsom/magnesium salt you’d recommend for baths? Thank you!!
It really is. What an upside down world they're trying to create. It's not the real world of course, only their slapdash faux version they are trying to sell as realty. As we used to say when I was a teenager, "As if!"
I buy my epsom salt from OM (organic matters) online.
I miss a circle of dangerous folks, I realized u was dangerous when I first began to understand plants as medicine. I became the outsider for my beliefs very quickly in 2012. I feel blessed to have lived for this not namabke event as I find myself discovering dangerous becoming worthy of seeking and more seekers to converse with! This roundup was very comforting and inspiring. Thank you for the salt link, I ordered the water book you recommended and iodine book and and working at my health sovereignty with sole, cod liver oil, sun gazing and iodine working into the lives of my family. I wish I could hug you, I miss touch of those I love and respect dearly but I will focus on my gratitude for the words that connect us! 🙏
I think of you often, dear Tawny. Tawny hanging off the eastern most edges of this great land. May your tribe grow rich and thick. Until we see each other again, I send you love.
Thank you for your sound advice and continued offerings with provided links. Very helpful!
I’m not here for the comfort zone- and oh yes there is comfort for sure- but being pushed out of the box on new topics and thinking, for growth. Being a renegade to the norm and going contrary to many aspects of society is how we live our lives. Slightly oddballish and out there, and going to the beat of a different drum, finding folks with like beliefs and wisdom - in person and “online” is necessary to form a tribe of support and love. All this and more I find with you and these fabulous contributing folks.
Me, too. To find others okay with being the oddball and going against the grain with love and integrity - I mean what's better. Well said and I wholeheartedly agree.
Beautifullly said Tara. After becoming parents my husband and I have realized how much we are the “dangerous” ones to those around us. We always knew we had a much different vision for life than most and made alot of choices that made others look at us or talk about us like we were coocoo. We honestly felt a little embarrassed or ashamed sometimes. But boy has that changed. Nothing like becoming a parent in a pushy and disrespectful society and birthing environment that’ll really make you stick to your guns about what you believe! After the birth of our daughter that went nothing like we had planned, one of the first things I said to my husband and midwife when my husband, baby, and I got home from the hospital was “I have never in my life, felt more sure and empowered to be “the black sheep”. Everything we just went through makes me WANT to be the odd one out like I’ve never felt before.”
And my “dangerous” incredible midwife gave me a big smile as tears poured down her cheeks.
What a blessing your Substack and the community you’ve built here continues to be to us. My husband and I are on the search for likeminded in person relationships, like so many others are here.
Thanks for the links too! And oh my that beautiful duck dinner looks divine! I’m hoping to order a lecreuset Dutch oven soon but am having a hard time on deciding what size!
I love this. I think so many of us come to this path through the forging of parenthood. Your story is so hopeful and empowering. Thank you for sharing it here.
Size is always a challenge. I honestly use every size regularly. I'd say go with the meal you cook the most and size it around that. No use in getting a huge one if your main meals are medium roasts or chickens or whatever. Not that helpful, I know.
A group of dangerous friend- my, how heartwarming is that! I'm glad to know you're in good company, Tara. I, for my part, will continue my search for such folks in my neck if the woods; I know they are out there. And, in the meantime, this digital corner of the world will continue to be my inspiration, my beacon to Reason.
We're always searching too, Chantal. The one thing I've come to learn is that the people that I have in my life don't necessarily see life as we do. I have many people that are family and friends that aren't concerned with the state of affairs or aren't worried about preparing or creating parallel systems. We know other people that do just that but out of fear and rage. It can be hard to find people that resonate both spiritually and in their awareness. Really hard actually. I enjoy the meetings we have in building communities but even there it's tricky. All that to say that I resonate with what you say and this place, with all of you wonderful people, is a gift to me, too.
I'm going to respond to your reply because my comment was in a similar vein. I was thinking about how I've resigned myself to not finding my "tribe" per se. I never know who my friends will be. Like I might meet someone who shares a lot of similar interests and values but there is just no connection. Conversely, many of my friends (like you have alluded to) don't share the same interests etc. I just keep being me and have found a few true friends along the way.
I've found the same thing, Renée. I also really enjoy solitude so I'm not one of those people that collects crowds. I'd rather have a few close friends with a sprinkling of others that I see intermittently and a lot more time with my loved ones or alone.
Same. I actually feel grateful that I have lost or outgrown friends - I don't have to pretend to be "normal" anymore. But I've found some good weirdos in work collegues, and my partner, and even online. I love getting razzed about not reading my son's report card because he was like me - what the heck is most of this stuff, anyway? And oh boy, I've lost friends over not being appreciative of the education system, or rather, critical of it (of basically of all these rat shaping instiutions)) and I have to say done in an honest kind way, transmuted anger if that makes sense. I hope we all find our tribes as we navigate sometimes murky waters. There's one here, for sure!
Tara, thank you once again for providing solace for "the misfits". I'm thirty years old and feel so lonely in all the decisions I make (or don't) find many around me always waiting for the "next vacation" and always ask myself why so many of us live our lives waiting for the good moments vs. finding them in everyday. With just under $100,000.00 in student loan debt and single parent-hood I often question whether or not I can afford to even live with my values intact. I am coming off maternity leave in the near future and the concept of going to work for someone else to raise my baby seems so counter intuitive. I try to talk to people within my friend group and family circle and no one seems to want to acknowledge the glaring truth. It seems we are all just going along because if we were to acknowledge it, it would mean we would have to or want to change it. I am just rambling but this piece (like so many others) has resonated with me once again. Thank you.
The notion that a radical is one who hates his country is naïve and usually idiotic. He is, more likely, one who likes his country more than the rest of us, and is thus more disturbed than the rest of us when he sees it debauched. He is not a bad citizen turning to crime; he is a good citizen driven to despair.
I want to be a dangerous woman and I am a dangerous woman! I will live dangerously and love fiercely. I will walk the path of my heart first my head high and my feet planted. I will stand with you in solidarity for the courage of living in sovereignty.
Thank you for creating a community of dangerous people!
I don’t know how it feels for you to share product recommendations, especially considering the culture surrounding that whole “influencer” thing now. But I just want to sincerely thank you for sharing when you do- I love learning about things I didn’t know about before from a trusted mentor. Clay mugs on my Christmas list!!! Thank you, Tara 🙏
Isn’t it an indication of how upside down our world is when us caring and thinking women (especially in partnership with a resolute man) are dangerous?! I had a similar realization a few years ago when a homesteading friend commented on how we’re essentially radical terrorists in the eyes of the government as we plan out homeschool goals... quietly dangerous, I like to call us. Not looking to instigate, but ready to defend. Thank you for this piece and recommendations. Given your comments on sea salt, are there any brands of Epsom/magnesium salt you’d recommend for baths? Thank you!!
It really is. What an upside down world they're trying to create. It's not the real world of course, only their slapdash faux version they are trying to sell as realty. As we used to say when I was a teenager, "As if!"
I buy my epsom salt from OM (organic matters) online.
I miss a circle of dangerous folks, I realized u was dangerous when I first began to understand plants as medicine. I became the outsider for my beliefs very quickly in 2012. I feel blessed to have lived for this not namabke event as I find myself discovering dangerous becoming worthy of seeking and more seekers to converse with! This roundup was very comforting and inspiring. Thank you for the salt link, I ordered the water book you recommended and iodine book and and working at my health sovereignty with sole, cod liver oil, sun gazing and iodine working into the lives of my family. I wish I could hug you, I miss touch of those I love and respect dearly but I will focus on my gratitude for the words that connect us! 🙏
I think of you often, dear Tawny. Tawny hanging off the eastern most edges of this great land. May your tribe grow rich and thick. Until we see each other again, I send you love.
Thank you for your sound advice and continued offerings with provided links. Very helpful!
I’m not here for the comfort zone- and oh yes there is comfort for sure- but being pushed out of the box on new topics and thinking, for growth. Being a renegade to the norm and going contrary to many aspects of society is how we live our lives. Slightly oddballish and out there, and going to the beat of a different drum, finding folks with like beliefs and wisdom - in person and “online” is necessary to form a tribe of support and love. All this and more I find with you and these fabulous contributing folks.
Me, too. To find others okay with being the oddball and going against the grain with love and integrity - I mean what's better. Well said and I wholeheartedly agree.
Beautifullly said Tara. After becoming parents my husband and I have realized how much we are the “dangerous” ones to those around us. We always knew we had a much different vision for life than most and made alot of choices that made others look at us or talk about us like we were coocoo. We honestly felt a little embarrassed or ashamed sometimes. But boy has that changed. Nothing like becoming a parent in a pushy and disrespectful society and birthing environment that’ll really make you stick to your guns about what you believe! After the birth of our daughter that went nothing like we had planned, one of the first things I said to my husband and midwife when my husband, baby, and I got home from the hospital was “I have never in my life, felt more sure and empowered to be “the black sheep”. Everything we just went through makes me WANT to be the odd one out like I’ve never felt before.”
And my “dangerous” incredible midwife gave me a big smile as tears poured down her cheeks.
What a blessing your Substack and the community you’ve built here continues to be to us. My husband and I are on the search for likeminded in person relationships, like so many others are here.
Thanks for the links too! And oh my that beautiful duck dinner looks divine! I’m hoping to order a lecreuset Dutch oven soon but am having a hard time on deciding what size!
I love this. I think so many of us come to this path through the forging of parenthood. Your story is so hopeful and empowering. Thank you for sharing it here.
Size is always a challenge. I honestly use every size regularly. I'd say go with the meal you cook the most and size it around that. No use in getting a huge one if your main meals are medium roasts or chickens or whatever. Not that helpful, I know.
A group of dangerous friend- my, how heartwarming is that! I'm glad to know you're in good company, Tara. I, for my part, will continue my search for such folks in my neck if the woods; I know they are out there. And, in the meantime, this digital corner of the world will continue to be my inspiration, my beacon to Reason.
We're always searching too, Chantal. The one thing I've come to learn is that the people that I have in my life don't necessarily see life as we do. I have many people that are family and friends that aren't concerned with the state of affairs or aren't worried about preparing or creating parallel systems. We know other people that do just that but out of fear and rage. It can be hard to find people that resonate both spiritually and in their awareness. Really hard actually. I enjoy the meetings we have in building communities but even there it's tricky. All that to say that I resonate with what you say and this place, with all of you wonderful people, is a gift to me, too.
I'm going to respond to your reply because my comment was in a similar vein. I was thinking about how I've resigned myself to not finding my "tribe" per se. I never know who my friends will be. Like I might meet someone who shares a lot of similar interests and values but there is just no connection. Conversely, many of my friends (like you have alluded to) don't share the same interests etc. I just keep being me and have found a few true friends along the way.
I've found the same thing, Renée. I also really enjoy solitude so I'm not one of those people that collects crowds. I'd rather have a few close friends with a sprinkling of others that I see intermittently and a lot more time with my loved ones or alone.
Same. I actually feel grateful that I have lost or outgrown friends - I don't have to pretend to be "normal" anymore. But I've found some good weirdos in work collegues, and my partner, and even online. I love getting razzed about not reading my son's report card because he was like me - what the heck is most of this stuff, anyway? And oh boy, I've lost friends over not being appreciative of the education system, or rather, critical of it (of basically of all these rat shaping instiutions)) and I have to say done in an honest kind way, transmuted anger if that makes sense. I hope we all find our tribes as we navigate sometimes murky waters. There's one here, for sure!
I love this Tara, I too am dangerous then I guess. 😊 Happy Saturday and thank you for the links.
We need some biker jackets or something. Armed (with gratitude and awe) & Dangerous. 🥰
Tara, thank you once again for providing solace for "the misfits". I'm thirty years old and feel so lonely in all the decisions I make (or don't) find many around me always waiting for the "next vacation" and always ask myself why so many of us live our lives waiting for the good moments vs. finding them in everyday. With just under $100,000.00 in student loan debt and single parent-hood I often question whether or not I can afford to even live with my values intact. I am coming off maternity leave in the near future and the concept of going to work for someone else to raise my baby seems so counter intuitive. I try to talk to people within my friend group and family circle and no one seems to want to acknowledge the glaring truth. It seems we are all just going along because if we were to acknowledge it, it would mean we would have to or want to change it. I am just rambling but this piece (like so many others) has resonated with me once again. Thank you.
The notion that a radical is one who hates his country is naïve and usually idiotic. He is, more likely, one who likes his country more than the rest of us, and is thus more disturbed than the rest of us when he sees it debauched. He is not a bad citizen turning to crime; he is a good citizen driven to despair.
H.L. Mencken
I wouldn't go so far as to say driven to despair, but driven to stand counter, yes.
I want to be a dangerous woman and I am a dangerous woman! I will live dangerously and love fiercely. I will walk the path of my heart first my head high and my feet planted. I will stand with you in solidarity for the courage of living in sovereignty.
Thank you for creating a community of dangerous people!
All right, what’s the secret club and how can I start one of my own?
I don’t know how it feels for you to share product recommendations, especially considering the culture surrounding that whole “influencer” thing now. But I just want to sincerely thank you for sharing when you do- I love learning about things I didn’t know about before from a trusted mentor. Clay mugs on my Christmas list!!! Thank you, Tara 🙏
I read “Punching Down” to my sister at Thanksgiving in my best “David Sedaris”. Multiple stops seeking breath between laughs. Love it!