wonderful guys, I love the steadfastness you both share and the fact that your hubby is willing to share more...thank you both for your willingness to show up here. I would love your take, Tara, on the role for a wife :) I can feel the authenticity between you two, the genuine polarity of energies is so refreshing and beautiful....and I love that it comes across on a recording...isn't that insanely human beauty...Happy Valentines to you beautiful people. Shanti. Trish
Just listened with my husband and we loved every second. We felt so similar and like we have so much to learn from you both and grow into..how inspiring. Thanks for doing this and yes, would LOVE to hear more.
Troy, I know this maybe isn't your first choice but a TnT talks podcast would be great. I really enjoyed listening to the dynamic between you two. Thanks for being willing to be pinned by Tara.
Wow...what a heartfelt conversation as we near heart day! Thank you both for that. I know that Tara has a beautiful way with words...so well-written...and now I see that her husband is so well-spoken! I read every word of yours about your marriage. My husband and I are going on 48 years and live happily on our 3/4-acre in the city, appreciating it more and more all the time. He has a workshop and, in fact, just made us our first queen bed! He will be enthralled by your sawmill story! II think all marriages have ups and downs, some more extreme than others. As a friend who lost her husband and daughter said to me recently, "I know. how your heart feels", because we lost a son a few years ago. Someone wished us "closure" but we don't want that because we always carry him in our hearts and conversations. Thanks for ALL you share with your readers. Your words have an impact. Happy Heart Day!
Dear Candy, I am so sorry that you have lost a son. I understand not wanting closure, I think the very idea of it is bizarre. Why would you ever want closure?
48 years of marriage! You should be writing about that! So many young people need to hear what it takes to make a marriage work. This new age nonsense isn't helping anyone. I am so happy for your both. Thank you for your kind compliments.
Thanks Troy. Believe me, I know that wasn't easy, but it was good to hear your thoughts and then compare your "man" values to mine. You're a good man with a good heart, I have no doubt.
I love your writing. I may love your audio narrative even more because your tone only intensifies the sincerity I feel when I read your writing. Including Troy was a big bonus. Please do so again. Thank you.
“My life for yours!” That is it there….a man to protect and support his family! Thanks for this amazing listen. I am going to try to convince my husband to listen as well. We have a long way to go with talking through our desires and coming to common ground. Hopefully other men(Troy) as role models will help as much as I feel like you have been mine!
That's so nice to hear, Jenelle. We had our fair share of figuring things out, too. I think it's nice for couples to support and encourage each other through the tough times of marriage. We need more good, positive examples cheering us on.
Ooohhhhh I was about to head to bed and realised I have some solo time (baby asleep and partner over at mother in laws!) so plugged headphone in and awhhhhh my heart!!! Soooo nice to hear your voices, and to hear the sincerity. Thank you for sharing. So genuine. So real. Just my cup of tea.
That was so lovely and what a wonderful man Troy is! I assumed he was of course knowing a bit about you but what a gift to hear each of your voices and hearts. We are in that thick stage of survival sometimes with a 7 year old and a 4 year old. Big shifts in life and work. It’s hard to not get lost in the struggle and logistics of daily life. I am so intensely grateful for your writing and sharing on this subject. We need this wisdom, many need this wisdom. Thank you♥️
Those are challenging times even when the world is smooth and normal which it most certainly is not right now. Thank you for your kindness, Willow. Love to you and your family.
Just fantastic! Love TnT!! I also listened to it with my husband as we were driving. So great! Thanks for being willing to take a minute and have a conversation for us all!
Loved this. I thank God for my husband too. His leadership and dedication to not giving up on us always has me in awe. He teaches me so much about life and represents to me aspects of Christ. Of course he isn't perfect, but neither am I. In our weaknesses we remain honest about those things so we have that team goal of working on that together instead of feeling alone in it. Instead of breaking each other down about it. That togetherness is bonded further with Who we believe in. And I often remind myself I have landed with my butt in the butter with this man. I am in my late 30s now and he in his mid 50s, and I am in the phase of understanding that my contribution goes way deeper to him than I foresaw initially when I was in my 20s. When he shares about it my eyes open to further detail that I had not considered before and it gives me understanding how to enrich my contribution to our love and life.
That's lovely, Yvette. It's such a marvel to me that as we grow and age as a couple, we can be more and receive more from each other. I often feel like my ability to understand so much in my life is enhanced because of my relationship with my husband. It's such a gift.
A friend of mine asked me recently if I want to be in love. I’ve been single for a very long time, and live an amazing life, but often alone. My answer was yes, but I had hesitation. Today I sent her your conversation with Troy, and I told her that I do want to be in love, and I wanted to be a love like what the two of you have. With deep devotion. Hot sex. A willingness to grow and learn alone and together. With an individuated, powerful man who knows his place on the planet, and sees the value of that place. That’s what I would love. A love like that. Thank you and Troy for being so generous with all that you are and know, and sharing it with all of us. I know that’s not always easy for you, but I for one am so deeply grateful.
Best advice I ever got was to “be” that love instead of idolising it. “Be” the love you wish to receive and always add more value to your plate (wisdoms, morals, sincere living) to attract someone of value too x
wonderful guys, I love the steadfastness you both share and the fact that your hubby is willing to share more...thank you both for your willingness to show up here. I would love your take, Tara, on the role for a wife :) I can feel the authenticity between you two, the genuine polarity of energies is so refreshing and beautiful....and I love that it comes across on a recording...isn't that insanely human beauty...Happy Valentines to you beautiful people. Shanti. Trish
Thank you so much, Trish. I'm reading all of these comments to Troy to butter him up. I think it's working. :)
Just listened with my husband and we loved every second. We felt so similar and like we have so much to learn from you both and grow into..how inspiring. Thanks for doing this and yes, would LOVE to hear more.
I love imagining that scene, with a couple listening in. Thank you so much, Tess.
Troy, I know this maybe isn't your first choice but a TnT talks podcast would be great. I really enjoyed listening to the dynamic between you two. Thanks for being willing to be pinned by Tara.
Haha that sounds kinky 🤣
Ha! Yes, help me butter him up to talk to me again :)
Wow...what a heartfelt conversation as we near heart day! Thank you both for that. I know that Tara has a beautiful way with words...so well-written...and now I see that her husband is so well-spoken! I read every word of yours about your marriage. My husband and I are going on 48 years and live happily on our 3/4-acre in the city, appreciating it more and more all the time. He has a workshop and, in fact, just made us our first queen bed! He will be enthralled by your sawmill story! II think all marriages have ups and downs, some more extreme than others. As a friend who lost her husband and daughter said to me recently, "I know. how your heart feels", because we lost a son a few years ago. Someone wished us "closure" but we don't want that because we always carry him in our hearts and conversations. Thanks for ALL you share with your readers. Your words have an impact. Happy Heart Day!
Dear Candy, I am so sorry that you have lost a son. I understand not wanting closure, I think the very idea of it is bizarre. Why would you ever want closure?
48 years of marriage! You should be writing about that! So many young people need to hear what it takes to make a marriage work. This new age nonsense isn't helping anyone. I am so happy for your both. Thank you for your kind compliments.
Thanks Troy. Believe me, I know that wasn't easy, but it was good to hear your thoughts and then compare your "man" values to mine. You're a good man with a good heart, I have no doubt.
I just read him your comment and I do believe I saw a fluff in his feathers. Thank you, Guy. :)
Thank you Troy and Tara! This was a great space to collect myself and stop crying from the accompanying incredibly tender writing on love LOL!
haha wonderful!
I love your writing. I may love your audio narrative even more because your tone only intensifies the sincerity I feel when I read your writing. Including Troy was a big bonus. Please do so again. Thank you.
Thanks so much, Jeff. That's so nice to hear.
I appreciate everything. 🙏🏼♥️
Thank you, Esther.
“My life for yours!” That is it there….a man to protect and support his family! Thanks for this amazing listen. I am going to try to convince my husband to listen as well. We have a long way to go with talking through our desires and coming to common ground. Hopefully other men(Troy) as role models will help as much as I feel like you have been mine!
That's so nice to hear, Jenelle. We had our fair share of figuring things out, too. I think it's nice for couples to support and encourage each other through the tough times of marriage. We need more good, positive examples cheering us on.
Dear Tara, thank you so much for asking Troy my questions. And to both of you: thank you for sharing, thank you for your openness.
It was fun :)
Ooohhhhh I was about to head to bed and realised I have some solo time (baby asleep and partner over at mother in laws!) so plugged headphone in and awhhhhh my heart!!! Soooo nice to hear your voices, and to hear the sincerity. Thank you for sharing. So genuine. So real. Just my cup of tea.
Thank you so much, Alex.
That was so lovely and what a wonderful man Troy is! I assumed he was of course knowing a bit about you but what a gift to hear each of your voices and hearts. We are in that thick stage of survival sometimes with a 7 year old and a 4 year old. Big shifts in life and work. It’s hard to not get lost in the struggle and logistics of daily life. I am so intensely grateful for your writing and sharing on this subject. We need this wisdom, many need this wisdom. Thank you♥️
Those are challenging times even when the world is smooth and normal which it most certainly is not right now. Thank you for your kindness, Willow. Love to you and your family.
Just fantastic! Love TnT!! I also listened to it with my husband as we were driving. So great! Thanks for being willing to take a minute and have a conversation for us all!
Oh hurray! Thank you so much, Janene.
Loved this. I thank God for my husband too. His leadership and dedication to not giving up on us always has me in awe. He teaches me so much about life and represents to me aspects of Christ. Of course he isn't perfect, but neither am I. In our weaknesses we remain honest about those things so we have that team goal of working on that together instead of feeling alone in it. Instead of breaking each other down about it. That togetherness is bonded further with Who we believe in. And I often remind myself I have landed with my butt in the butter with this man. I am in my late 30s now and he in his mid 50s, and I am in the phase of understanding that my contribution goes way deeper to him than I foresaw initially when I was in my 20s. When he shares about it my eyes open to further detail that I had not considered before and it gives me understanding how to enrich my contribution to our love and life.
That's lovely, Yvette. It's such a marvel to me that as we grow and age as a couple, we can be more and receive more from each other. I often feel like my ability to understand so much in my life is enhanced because of my relationship with my husband. It's such a gift.
Thank you for sharing this treasure, I so enjoyed it! His words gave me a little tear in my eye.
Thank you, Dani :)
A friend of mine asked me recently if I want to be in love. I’ve been single for a very long time, and live an amazing life, but often alone. My answer was yes, but I had hesitation. Today I sent her your conversation with Troy, and I told her that I do want to be in love, and I wanted to be a love like what the two of you have. With deep devotion. Hot sex. A willingness to grow and learn alone and together. With an individuated, powerful man who knows his place on the planet, and sees the value of that place. That’s what I would love. A love like that. Thank you and Troy for being so generous with all that you are and know, and sharing it with all of us. I know that’s not always easy for you, but I for one am so deeply grateful.
Best advice I ever got was to “be” that love instead of idolising it. “Be” the love you wish to receive and always add more value to your plate (wisdoms, morals, sincere living) to attract someone of value too x
absolutely true.
Thank you, Naomi. That is such a beautiful, meaningful compliment. xo