Oh, dear Emily. I am so utterly and deeply sorry for such a profound loss. Your mother and your brother. It's tragic. I wish I could stand with you and just hug you. It seems so much better a response than trying to find the words. I know there are no words. Only love, and that I send you.
Oh, dear Emily. I am so utterly and deeply sorry for such a profound loss. Your mother and your brother. It's tragic. I wish I could stand with you and just hug you. It seems so much better a response than trying to find the words. I know there are no words. Only love, and that I send you.
I have read so many books on death and the last year. If you think you might want to, I would highly recommend reading two of them whenever you are up to it. Once is called, "Bearing the Unbearable" and the other is "It's Ok that you're not Ok". Maybe neither is for right now, maybe they are. You know that better than I do.
Of course you feel alone. Grief can be so utterly isolating. I'm so glad you refuse to pretend you're okay. Some people just won't be able to handle that. I sometimes wonder if pretending is the cost of being in a relationship with someone, who is comforting whom?
Oh, dear Emily. I am so utterly and deeply sorry for such a profound loss. Your mother and your brother. It's tragic. I wish I could stand with you and just hug you. It seems so much better a response than trying to find the words. I know there are no words. Only love, and that I send you.
I have read so many books on death and the last year. If you think you might want to, I would highly recommend reading two of them whenever you are up to it. Once is called, "Bearing the Unbearable" and the other is "It's Ok that you're not Ok". Maybe neither is for right now, maybe they are. You know that better than I do.
Of course you feel alone. Grief can be so utterly isolating. I'm so glad you refuse to pretend you're okay. Some people just won't be able to handle that. I sometimes wonder if pretending is the cost of being in a relationship with someone, who is comforting whom?
I send you my love and my prayers.
Tara, have you read Signs by Laura Lynne Jackson? I found it to be super helpful following my mom's crossing to the other side....