A call for your questions
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Next week’s Q&As will be on relationship stuff. That’s what the majority of you voted for and I aim to please. So, let’s hear them! Relationship stuff only this go around, please. And I will need your questions in by the evening of Wednesday, July 5th so I can plunk this man of mine down to answer your questions with me.
A call for your questions
Hello, dear Tara!
I have always appreciate how you’ve shared your family’s journey, via podcasts, here on Substack, and within the documentary that gave us a peek into you & T’s farm, hearts, and minds! It seems as though you’ve always been aligned in your big picture goals/vision for your family and lives. Was there ever a time when you were not? How did you manage to move forward while not walking the same path and eventually get on the same page? Compromise?
Alternatively, if not, I trust that it isn’t random or by chance, that you two are so aligned. ;) In this case, could you share the specifics on what practices you have in place that keep your collective vision for your family/home/lives in sync? Is it “lead by example” and the energies will transmute and inspire the other? Good ol fashioned lost art of communication? Would love to hear what you’ve learned about this sort of thing over the years.
For context, I am married to the love of my life and our hearts have been bonded since age 15. By 42, I long for him to trade his highly demanding suit-n-tie-downtown-rat-race-EXCELLENT-paying job for something that affords us more time together; to learn alongside me to produce our own food, participate in the homeschooling of our kids before they’re gone, reconnect with the land, and just log more hours together as a family. I see the damage this current arrangement does to him physically and feel deeply, a regret that we fell into the trap of our generation and those prior to us- the lie we were sold that success is a college degree, a job that robs you of all life force, and a magazine worthy house/overly scheduled kids, and only two weeks a year of vacation. It’s such a scam and I feel like HE thinks he’s too locked in to pivot in such a way now. Sadly, he is unable to see how it’s truly taking years off his life via the stress and in turn our (and kids’) time together.
Anyway, you and T have seemed so aligned on your journey as a family all these years. I’d love to hear if different priorities and visions have ever been laid in your paths…
God bless you!
Hello dear Tara!
I'm a single lady but very much have a relationship question.
It's hard enough to find a decent man, a good match a solid human to hunker down with but it feels especially more so when trying to find a man who wants to live the way I do. I've had people make comments on how hard it will be to find a man who wants to go off with me to my simple secluded farmstead and live simply the way I wish to, raise littles in the way I so strongly believe and wish to.
It feels like a diamond in the rough and I've been looking for many many years and it just seems to get harder to find a good, strong, solid, steady man who wants a family and a simple, pure life away from all the noise. Sometimes it feels impossible but I choose to not give up faith and hope in it. I pray for it every day and try to live my life to welcome this in.
What advice would you give single people to find a solid man these days to partner up with for life?
As a sweet aside, I love hearing how people met, so if I've missed. yours, I would love to hear that too:)
I'm so grateful for you and this space and for all you share with us. Thank you kindly!