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Diane's avatar

Seems the daughter was as fine a writer as the mother. A precious token of her essence left behind, allowing the world to know and honor her.

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Tara's avatar

She was gifted in many ways. Thank you, Diane.

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Unpalatable by Tanja Rohn's avatar

Thank you for sharing this. Did the impulse to do so catch you by surprise?

What has really interested me the most about my mums passing is how much of a relationship we still have, how much impact she still has, something still builds as much as so much has stopped. I had never come across the idea that something still generates after someone is gone.

You’re touching a lot of lives by sharing Mila’s insight and creativity. Thank you so much.

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Tara's avatar

Thank you, Tanja. I remember, early on in my grief, reading that a relationship can continue to grow and evolve and I thought that sounded so beautiful, but I didn't understand. In many ways, at many times, I still don't understand, but I've given up trying and instead, just allow and surrender. It's been such an exquisitely wondrous and painful time. Our relationships do still go on and it is such a profound and humbling gift.

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Polyxena of the Pink Poppy's avatar

Yes. So true. My mother died when I was 19 and as I grow, so too does our relationship deepen.

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Tara's avatar

Yes, I can understand what you mean by that even though I still find it challenging to explain to people. It's a relationship using senses and meaning in a way we don't in our physical world.

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Eliane's avatar

Thank you for opening us a window into Mila's universe. I'm touched by her sensitivity and intelligence to not only notice all the details of her experience, but to tell them in such a way that I feel like experiencing it myself.

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Tara's avatar

Thank you so much, Eliane.

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Shan MacLaggan's avatar

What a thoughtful, curious and compelling girl she is. Thank you so much for sharing a piece of her brilliance and beauty with us. The solace to be found, I think, is in what she’s left behind. She may not be here physically, but she’s EVERYWHERE now. And by connecting with your life - with your animals, your people, your community - you’re connecting with her. Cause she lives and breathes in all of it now.✨

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Tara's avatar

Thank you, Shannon. Yes, that is very true. She is here and everywhere and I am so profoundly grateful for our ongoing relationship and the love she still finds ways to spread and share.

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zahra's avatar

reading this curled up in my own bed before dawn, sipping tea from a warm mug, able to imagine all the little details she so sweetly describes. thank you for sharing Tara ❤️

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Tara's avatar

Thank you for spending some time in that space with us, Zahra.

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Tam's avatar

“ I lean into her and she accepts me. A connection between her and I, a mutual understanding of our purpose there.”

This made me stop reading. It just provoked a “rational” halt. It felt so personal. It gifted me the opportunity to mentally imbue her pronouns with energies and beings that are familiar to my experience. It made me feel grateful for the “places” where acceptance didn’t have conditions or harsh boundaries.

My attempt to relay how grateful I am for having met Mila here will fall short. I still thank you for allowing me in such an intimate experience. Gracias Tara! ❤️

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Tara's avatar

Thank you so very much, Tam. That's a beautiful gift to give me and I know Mila feels it, too. Thank you.

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Joe's avatar

Wonderful, I felt like I was in that barn enjoying that moment with her. Thanks as always for sharing. ❤️

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Tara's avatar

I'm so glad, thank you, Joe.

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Joe's avatar

I was thinking about you today as I listened to what I think is the latest podcast from Jordan Peterson. I’ve been a fan of his books and certainly many of his positions and pieces, but have not ever subscribed to this podcast.

I did that the other day when you shared, I forget where, his recent discussion about travel restrictions in Canada.

The conversation I listened to today is one of the best I can remember in a very long time where he discusses three tweets with two of his close friends and advisers.

Absolutely amazing conversation. Not just the topics or subject matter, but the whole vibe and affect of their relationships, cordiality, and discussion. We need so much more of this in our world.

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Heather's avatar

Her words paint such a vivid picture in my mind that I can not only see, but feel and hear and smell as well. Writing seems to run deep in this family. She had this gift just like her momma does.

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Tara's avatar

She did. Thank you, Heather.

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Rachel Gibson's avatar

Thank you for sharing ❤️ I felt like I took every step with her

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Tara's avatar

Thank you for reading it and taking the time to share this with me, Rachel.

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Taryn's avatar

What lovely writing, I could experience her morning so vividly. No embellishments just pure descriptive language, what a gift. So thoughtful that she wanted to share this with her grandmother, I can see her heart and I can imagine what a joy she was to behold.

I've been attending church again for the first time since I walked away as a child. Your family and especially your sweet Mila will be in my prayers.

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Tara's avatar

Thank you, Taryn. I thought it was sweet that she wanted her grandma to read it, too. Thank you for keeping us in your prayers.

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Jeanie Taylor's avatar

Just as I imagined it- Mila was so very much like you Tara. Insightful; a brilliant writer who allows us to experience exactly what she was up to, as if we were right beside her. Thank you for sharing her writing with us. A lovely glimpse into the love that forever remains. 💛

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Tara's avatar

Thank you, Jeanie xo

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Mattie's avatar

Thank you for sharing your Mila. Her writing is so beautiful and pure and unassuming. I felt like I was walking right along with her in the dew covered grass. ❤️

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Tara's avatar

Thank you, Mattie. You just described her - "beautiful and pure and unassuming". That was such a sweet gift. Thank you.

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Anne's avatar

Beautiful!

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Samantha Migliozzi-Zanfagna's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing this.

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Brooke Skinner's avatar

So beautiful 🌹

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Jo-Anne Simpson's avatar

What beautiful writing and how like her Mama! Thank you for sharing a small (and yet so beautifully telling) piece of your Mila Tara, she seems wonderful and we definitely like her ❤️

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Tara's avatar

Impossible not to. Thank you, Jo-Anne.

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